So … we went on our first adoption interview for the county last week. I haven’t been posting because that two hours made me rethink if I want to continue with the process. Everyone told me not to worry, but I should have been much more worried than I was.
I didn’t know that it would be a panel interview
When we got there we were taken to a room with a table, chairs, and a small couch. We sat at the table and waited for our interviewer … which turned out to be two interviewers. One lead the questioning while the other sat and digested our responses and body language. I definitely felt like every answer was taken apart and every movement was noted.
I didn’t know that I would be talked down to
The interviewer asked us if the “po-po” ever came to our house,rephrased an aswer that refered to a spanking from childhood by asking about “after your mom got a swtich … “, and complimented me by letting me know that I am “very articulate”.Uhmmmmm …. riiiiiight. Is “po-po” a professional term? No one mentioned anything about a “switch” and … why would I not speak well?
I didn’t expect to be told to attend therapy
As soon as the interviewer heard “foster care”,”family mental health issues” and “sexual abuse” the interview was over. I was told that I would need to attend therapy. Um …. come again? I was in foster care as a child (and that was maaaaany moons ago), my family has a history of mental health issues but I don’t, and the sexual abuse I experienced as a child has never interfered with my life. On the one hand I understand that they want to make sure I’m “okay” (whatever that means), but on the other hand I’m a little offended.
The whole process made me feel really uncomfortable. My sister thinks that I should ask to work with a different case worker. I just feel like maybe this process isn’t for me. I had no idea that I would be made to feel so … badly …