Tonight was “Understanding CPS” at our county’s foster care/adopt PRIDE class. It was pretty good. Not “good” in the sense that I feel better about adopting, but “good” in the sense that I better understand the process for adopting a kid in our county. I learned some valuable things tonight:
It will be a long and winding road. Tonight we learned that the kid will be taken and have a D/J hearing, an initial hearing, a six month hearing, there is possibility of all manner of continuation hearings, a TPR hearing and possibly an appeals hearing. That is a LOT of hearings.
Kids from 0 – 3 have a different time schedule. In an effort to help children find stable homes more quickly, there is a push by the county to help parents reunite with children quickly or place the child with an adoptive family.
There aren’t as many Black kids as I thought. Tonight we received a handout with different graphs that detailed how many kids come into care by age and ethnicity. I was surprised to see mostly Latino kids, followed by white kids, and only 17% were Black kids. In our county that came to about 256 Black kids per year.
I’m a horrible person. Tonight we focused on the process that takes a child from a family and places that child with a different family. For me to grow my family I have to hope that a mother can’t stay off of drugs, hope that a father continues to abuse his wife and kids, etc., etc., etc. I know that all the adoption sites talk about the fact that any family created through adoption is rooted in loss, but I really felt it tonight.
Anyhoo … there was a lot of question and answer going on. It felt good to have someone to ask my crazy questions to. We didn’t do any getting-to-know-you activities this week which kinda makes me sad, but …. so goes life. I don’t think that I’ll be finding any people in class to form a lasting bond with, but what do I know? Lol The training is still young!