We’re on week 9 out of 11 weeks of classes! Whoo hoo!
This week we talked about the roles and responsibilities of resource families, but the real news is that one of the social workers that teaches our class told us that adopting a newborn was possible!
I know …. I know … this may not be news to some of you, but it was exhilarating for us! Our county is running two classes: one on Tuesdays (ours) and one on Thursdays. The one on Thursdays is two weeks ahead of us and FILLED with prospective adoptive parents. Our class is almost completely prospective foster parents. In fact, there are only four other families that are looking to adopt!
Since most of the people in our class are fostering, most of the information is on foster care situations. We have heard every negative thing you can think of about older kids, acting out after visits with biological parents, behavioral problems, mental problems, health problems and on and on …
I’m sure all of that is true … and that’s why we’d prefer a baby 0 – 1 year old so that we’ll have longer to attach and bond as a family. The problem is … they make it sound like getting a baby if you’re not fostering or doing concurrent planning is almost impossible. At the last class, I asked one of the social workers to be honest with us and tell us if adopting an infant was possible. She smiled at us and said that everything goes through cycles, but right now they are getting tons of babies!
It feels horrible to wish that a baby’s family can’t get it together so we can adopt their baby. I mean … really? … I kinda hope that someone is so screwed up that they leave their baby at a Safe Haven location so we can have it. See? Doesn’t that sound ugly? I have to remind myself that we’re not going around the city encouraging families to mistreat and/or leave their children. These are children that are going to be mistreated and/or left regardless of if we sign up as adoptive parents or not.
Anyhoo … we have two more classes to go. We’re getting our health screenings on Monday and our CPR/First-Aid class is on Saturday. It’s all coming together.