The Two Sides of International Adoption

I’ve always been a bit concerned about international adoption because 1) there could be a cultural barrier in the understanding of “adoption” when biological parents are working, if they are working, with an adoption agency 2) there could be language barriers with signing a contract that the biological parents may or may not be able to read 3) there may be little recourse for the biological parents due to how far away the adoptive parents may live and 4) how much, or how little, money may be available to mount a legal case.

Anyhoo … I saw this film,  “Mercy, Mercy” mentioned online at that I thought I’d share:

The short version of the story goes… At first sight, adoption seems like a win-win situation: a poor orphan gets some loving parents and a good life. But the world of adoption is a question of supply and demand, with Ethiopia as a chief supplier of thousands of needy children. The fact that the well-being of the child is not always top priority becomes painfully clear in this tragic story about Masho and her little brother Roba.


Far from being orphans, their sick parents give them up for adoption in the hope they’ll have a better life. The two toddlers move to Denmark with their new parents, but are they better off now?


For 4 years, filmmaker Katrine Kjaer followed both parent couples: Danes Henriette and Gert are on the verge of despair over the rebellious Masho, who doesn’t want to adjust to her new family; meanwhile, Ethiopians Sinkenesh and Husen are desperate because they’re not receiving any news about their children, as the adoption agency promised.


Read more about Mercy, Mercy here.

Read an bit about Mercy, Mercy on the Dannish Film Institute’s website.



2 thoughts on “The Two Sides of International Adoption

  1. I feel the same way which is why (in addition to not qualifying for most countries) we chose not to adopt internationally. When we first started the process we had only been married 3 years and were under 30 which for most countries was too young and not a long enough marriage (we also didn’t meet the income requirements of some countries and then there were the ethical issues I felt are involved in international adoption.)

    I also have three cousins adopted from Russia. All three of them have families in Russia which when they moved to the USA they lost contact with. Except for the oldest one none of them speak Russian and her Russian is rusty. They were all adopted when they were older 9-12 years old so although they were considered “special needs” because their chance of ever being adopted was low they also lost so much. The oldest one has since moved back to Russia. I know my aunt and uncle meant well (their oldest son is a foster to adopt) who is 30+ and doing well but since they came from a foster to adopt situation in which it wasn’t healthy for my oldest cousin to have contact with his family I think they thought the same for the younger three.

    I will have to check out the documentary! Thanks!

  2. A shocking expose of the wrongs of transantional adoption and the damage it does to kids and their families.There are better solutions when what is best for kids is really considered.

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