I just read this article that says:
In fact, the adopted teens in the study scored better than their nonadopted siblings or a sample of their peers in …
- Connectedness—having three or more friends and having access to two or more nonparent adults for advice.
- Caring—placing a high value on helping other people.
- Social competency—friendship-making and assertiveness skills.
Adopted teens also scored higher than nonadopted adolescents in …
School achievement—having a B average or better and aspiring to higher education.
Optimism—expecting to be happy in 10 years and expecting to be successful as an adult.
Support—having a high level of support from parents and from school.
I THOUGHT I was fine. I absolutely thought I was fine. And happy. Then one day in my twenties my adoptee grief came sneaking up from behind, and I found myself on the floor of my apartment in a puddle of tears, saying “she doesn’t even know who I am” over and over again. It came out of the blue and knocked me flat! And before that? Turns out I wasn’t so much “happy” as “numb.”