One of the things that make parents call the toddler years The Terrible Twos is because kids have no problem sharing their feelings: extreme happiness, utter devastation, rage, sadness, etc. Kids are learning to express themselves and that is what they are supposed to do. The challenge for parents is accepting that the child is expressing themselves and just …. let it be. According to The Other Baby book:
Babies and toddlers stretch us emotionally by confronting us with feelings that we’ve been taught to dismiss, ignore, or stuff down to get by in Western societies. After all, it wouldn’t be cool for an adult to throw a temper tantrum in a mall or at the supermarket.
How true! I know there have been times when I’ve wanted to throw a tantrum, but it would look for an adult to throw themselves out at the DMV because they only take cash and checks and no one told me that they wouldn’t take cards and who doesn’t take cards nowadays? Ugh!
Anyhoo …. would anyone care to share any strategies for helping kids feel welcome to share their feelings while not losing your sanity?