After we sign and they get everything over to the courts, she said we’ll be able to finalize in about two weeks! It’s all so anti-climactic. You spend so much time filling out paperwork and walking on pins and needles to make sure everything is going well and then you get matched and then you have a kid in your house and it’s weird and then …. it’s not …. and you kind of forget that this kid is still in foster care and then you get a call saying that this is it … you’re going to officially …. formally … legally … be a family and it’s bananas!
It’s just a phone call.
A phone call … that changes everything and nothing. We’ve been living together and loving each other for a year now so that doesn’t change … but … it’s official and something does change. It’s so odd. It’s like a wedding day … the joining of two families. It’s not the wedding that’s important it’s the marriage and I know that parenting this kid for the next 50 years will be scary … and amazing …. and consuming …. and enjoyable … and things I can’t even imagine right now …. but all I can focus on it that day … that actual day … we will legally become a family.