Feeding Solids to Your Adopted Infant


Getting baby girl to eat solids is turning out to be a bit of a struggle.

With our toddler, we had him since we picked him up in the hospital. The first food he ate was squash that I baked and mashed up myself. He loved churascarria (Brazilian steakhouse) by the time he was nine months old. He eventually did each those little Gerber foods to go, but by that time his love of actual food, both flavors and textures, was cemented. The Gerber foods were probably like a guilty treat (think Jell-O or pudding) to him.

Our current foster-adopt placement is already 8 months old but she hadn’t been given any food yet. She wants to eat two or three of those Gerber fruits and/or veggies at every meal because that’s what she’s used to. Since she’s been here (a week) we’ve been giving her the Gerber with meat (turkey and squash, chicken and veggies, etc.), Gerber with oatmeal (oatmeal with pears and cinnamon, yum!), and sliding in a few actual foods when we get a chance.

Babies have done a lot of living in 8 months. She came to us sleeping through the night, eating on a schedule, and clinging to her foster mother. We have a totally different parenting style. At our house she wakes two or three times a night for a bottle, she eats when she wants, as much as she wants, and she plays on the floor with her brother and her toys. It’s all a lot to take in over a week. I have to remember that she’s lived a completely different life until now. I have to be patient.

Introducing food to her seems like it might be a bit of a struggle (some textures turn her off) but eventually she will eat food. You don’t see 9 year olds eating Gerber foods anymore. Lol


Gener Reveal Adoption Photo Shoot

This whole time we’ve been low-key expecting a girl but after our adoption worker mentioned that there are not enough Black homes for Black kids, we said we were open to any Black kid in our age range. That means that we might end up with another boy.

Wait …. does this mean we get to do a gender reveal photo shoot?! Eek!

I’m not really hung up on gender so I’m thinking something neutral like this:


Of course I’ll actually make a cake (I stole these photos from the internet) and pose for some cute photos with the current fam but …. what do you think? Perhaps a photo with all of us making the cake, then the cake, then the cake cut open, and in the last frame a photo of the new fam?

Don’t judge me, this is only my first idea! Lol

If you know of cute gender reveal photo shoots, drop the link in the comments. Last time I didn’t even realize our home study was complete before we had a baby in our arms so I’m trying to be proactive this time around!


Changing My Mind About His 1st Born Day Party

Cake-Born-Day-1I’ve been dreaming about the baby’s first born day party since we were placed …. okay …  since I thought about really having a baby in our family! Lol Anyhoo …

We went to his first social event today. It was our friend’s daughter’s first birthday party and it was beautiful! There was a decadent desert table. Everything was perfectly color coordinated. The baby wore an outfit that tied in perfectly to the color scheme. The cake? Amazing! Actually, there were two cakes. There was a two level cake with glitter in the fondant and there was a smaller cake for the baby to play with. The daughter took her “official” smash cake photos a few weeks ago. It was everything that I thought I wanted a born day party to be except …. the personalities at the party didn’t mesh. First-Birthday-Desert-Table

It’s not that they didn’t mesh well. It’s that they didn’t mesh … at all. Guests were from all walks of life. There were three areas that people could be in and people were segmented into all three areas. There were no games to get to know each other. There was no attempt by most people to speak to the other guests. Just because that happened at this party, doesn’t mean that it will happen at his party. Our Baby Welcoming was wonderful! Still ….

First-Birthday-Cake-Animals-Tri-Level-BlueOn the way home I mentioned it to Him and he casually said that he would prefer a small party with just the three of us. How sweet! Now I’m really thinking about getting a small cake and taking some photos and leaving it at that.

What do you think? What did you do to celebrate your little one’s first birthday?


Non-Religious Meal Starters

Family-Saying-GraceI really like the idea of starting a meal by acknowledging how it got in front of us and being appreciative of that however I don’t pray before meals because I don’t pray. I rarely see things that interest me about ways to begin a family meal, but this article on secular grace caught my eye. The author offers a few ideas of secular meal starters (grace). This one is my favorite:

We are so grateful for this food,
it restores our strength,
it heals our bodies,
it fuels our brains.

We are so grateful for this time,
to renew our spirit,
to share our trials,
to find new strength.


I would change “grateful” to “appreciative” but other than that, I LOVE this! Atheists, agnostics and other non-religious folks what, if anything, do you say before you eat?

Tips for Flying With An Infant

Flying-InfantWe will soon be heading out to Chicago by plane and I have a few questions. Though we’ve traveled internationally and extensively in the US this will be our first flight with a baby.  From what I can gather I should:

Before Leaving the HouseTravel-Life-Hack-Food-With-Spoon

Tape disposable spoons to store-bought food.

Bring a backpack instead of a sling-type diaper bag.

Bring cloth diapers with disposable inserts. Less to throw away in your large ziplock bag.

Dress baby in a long-sleeved, footed, jumper that you don’t mind throwing away.

Before Boarding

Get a Boarding Verification Document when you arrive at the airport (don’t forget to bring the baby’s birth certificate).

Wear the baby through security.

Don’t worry about brining his formula and baby food through TSA.

Gate check the car seat at the gate.


While Seated

Encourage the baby to drink during take-off and landing.

Bring tons of diapers.

Bring plastic bags for diaper disposal or soiled clothes.

Bring a “busy bag“.

Bring carabiners to clip on toys to the wrap so he can’t drop them.

Bring anti-bacterial wipes to wipe down surfaces baby will touch, lick, grab, etc.

Wear baby during flight (not during take-off and landing).

Play during the downtime to tire the baby out.

Ask for wings as some airlines still give out cute little pins for kids.


What am I forgetting? What’s your best tip for traveling with an infant?









He Ate Food! (Butternut Squash Recipe)

I made this baked butternut squash with olive oil and Himalayan pink salt as his first food.

I made this baked butternut squash with olive oil and Himalayan pink salt as his first food.


The baby ate food today! He didn’t want his milk and he didn’t want his water. I couldn’t figure out what was going ….  so I thought that I’d try to give him a bit of the butternut squash that I made for him (Yum! Homemade first food!). Originally, I thought that I would bake it, puree it, freeze it and start him on solids in a few weeks. He had other plans.

I heard that when babies eat their first food, they eat a few spoonfuls and leave it at that. I scooped out two little scoops of sqaush thinking that he would have a few nibbles and I would eat the rest (don’t judge me! Lol). After the first bite, he was hooked. He ate almost the entire plate by himself and I didn’t get any.

I am so proud that he enjoyed it that I figured that I’d share the recipe below:

Cut the butternut squash in half. It's more difficult than I thought that it would be, but I wrestled it into thirds.

Cut the butternut squash in half. It’s more difficult than I thought that it would be, but I wrestled it into thirds.


I put olive oil and Himalayan pink salt on it.

I put olive oil and Himalayan pink salt on it.

I put the cut thirds into the backing pan with the cut sides up and cooked for 45 minutes at 425 degrees.

I put the cut thirds into the backing pan with the cut sides up and cooked for 45 minutes at 425 degrees.

I cooked it until I saw that the outside skin was puckered.

I cooked it until I saw that the outside skin was puckered.

I want to mash it up and put it into ice cube trays to use for later, but life interrupted. I’ll have to do it in a bit. For now, I scooped out two hunks, put ’em on a plate, mashed ’em up and feed ’em to the baby. He ate most of it and then washed it all down with some formula. Ahhhhh … the lunch of champions!  =)

He loved it.

He loved it.


First Food – Black Bean Puree?

Black-Bean-Baby-FoodI was looking up alternatives to baby cereals, when I came across this recipe for black bean puree. Until I read this, I had never considered giving a baby any kind of beans, but this looks yummy!

This may not be the prettiest puree around, but it sure is tasty! Black beanpuree

3 tbsp cooked black beans
1 tbsp chopped onion
1 small garlic clove, crushed
little olive oil
pinch ground cumin
2 to 3 tbsp low sodium or homemade chicken stock

Saute the onion and garlic in a little olive oil until tender.
Place the cooked onion and garlic in a blender and add the black beans, stock and cumin.
Blend until smooth, adding a little more stock if necessary.

VARIATIONS: Add 2 tbsp chopped, fresh or canned tomatoes to the onions as you cook them, then blend with the other ingredients (note that the tomatoes will add liquid to the dish, so you will need less stock to thin it).

You can also take this recipe and create a black bean soup by simply increasing the amount of stock you add to create a more ‘liquid’ texture.

There are other black bean baby food recipes on the site. Make sure to head over there and take a look at all the delicious recipes.