Earrings for Toddler


Since our baby girl is still in foster care (we hope the adoption will finalize this spring), we have to ask permission to get her ears pierced. I’ve gone back and forth about it since some folks think putting holes in a person without their permission is cruel and/or unsafe. I have weighed how she might feel about it in the future versus how I grew up, and how I hope she gets to experience community.

My ears were pierced as a baby so wearing earrings is all I know. When I was in middle school, a friend talked me into getting an extra hole. I made it all the way down to the piercing place, but couldn’t go through with it. I’m scary. Lol I’m super glad that my parents had my ears pierced as a baby or I’d be stuck wearing clip ons (ouch!) or magnets (double ouch!) or stickers that are made for children.

We’re gonna get ’em pierced and hope that she appreciates it in the future.

Anyhoo … the real point of this post is about what kind of earrings we should buy. I see articles suggesting something without nickel and other suggesting specific metals like titanium or 14k gold.

Anyone have any advice? What kind of earrings should we buy? Also, where do we get it done? I asked at our pediatrician’s office and they said that they don’t do it.



Teething Craziness


We’ve had baby girl in our home for almost a month now so we still don’t know her very well. This morning she was kind of fussy and cried ….  a lot. When I looked in her mouth, I could see two little teethies coming in on the bottom.

This is our first experience with teething. Our toddler didn’t sprout teeth until a little after his first born day and it seems like one day he was gumming food and the next day, he had a full set of chompers. Now I understand what all the stories about teething babies are about. Lol

This poor baby is in pain. You can tell she’s hurting because even while resting, she has one tear sliding down her face. We’ve been giving her bits of frozen juice bar, rubbing her back, and letting her snuggle in the Moby.

I know most babies go through this but it’s hard watching her struggle.



Baby Girl’s 9 Month Mishap

Today we took baby girl to our pediatrician for her 9 month appointment. Usually they do a little physical and give the baby the next round of immunizations. Well, as you might recall we’ve only had the baby for three weeks (we’re adopting her from foster care). We had to take her for a medical exam when she was placed with us and her medical records followed her from her last placement.

Imagine our surprise when a nurse told us that she had received her 9 months shots in APRIL. She was only 5 months old at that point. Um … what the hell?!

They gave her a booster and sent us on our way.

When I think of all the things that the last home said were wrong with her emotionally AND medically ….  *stomps foot* NONE of those things have been true so far and our pediatrician today (this is her second time seeing her) said that those things must have been manifesting because of her environment.

The baby has changed so much from the first day we met her to today. She is amazing and I’m so glad that we were matched with her.

The 4th Trimester for Adopted Newborns


I could have tightened up my wrap job, but he was sleeping and happy so I was happy.

I can’t remember where I first heard about the 4th trimester (it’s originally from The Happiest Baby on the Block) idea, but I love it. I’ll admit that I’m a crunchy parent (we did elimination communication for goodness’ sake), a crafter, and a snuggler so this concept that a baby needs to be treated almost like they are still in the womb for the first three months after birth already fit in with my world view.

Babies cannot be spoiled.

Babies need to have every one of their needs met.

We were matched with a newborn through our county’s foster-adopt program. We were able to pick him up right from the hospital. We had plenty of swaddling wraps (both thin cotton and heavier cotton), material to babywear him in, and plans to do kangaroo care (skin-to-skin contact) as much as possible. The first three months are a blur. I’m glad that I take lots of photos because I don’t remember much of it.

Most of the photos show tired parents with a baby within arm’s reach. Some photos have the baby sleeping or resting on the chest of a tired adult. Sometimes when you’re tired and you hear a baby crying it’s frustrating, just remember that crying, fussing, etc. is the only way that the baby has to communicate with you. For babies that have been adopted, being held and cared for might be even more important. Each child has their own backstory, some kinder than others. For some children that were adopted from the foster care system, and some through private adoption too, they have already had some negative experiences.

We picked up our baby at the hospital, but I have no way of knowing what kinds of experiences he had before we met him. To help him feel welcome into our family, we made sure to give him the opportunity to be close to us and snuggle with us. All babies need to be responded to and cared for, but the 4th trimester is even more important for babies that have been adopted.


Dialing 911 on Cell Not Easy for Toddlers


Could your toddler dial 911 from your cell phone?

I have been debating whether to get a landline or not and I came across this article while researching. Many people will say that since they have a cell phone they don’t need a home phone. Hmmmm ….   I’m not so sure.

One of the things this article points out is that it’s difficult for a toddler to find a cell phone let alone make a call with one (turn it on, get through the lockscreen, find the dialpad, etc.). I hadn’t considered any of this. I’m glad I read the article. I’m leaning towards getting a landline that has a phone that doesn’t use electricity (old school!) for the house.

Do you have a landline? Why or why not?


Tips to Help Toddlers Be Polite at the Pool

Pool-TipsWe are in Las Vegas this week. We rented a room at a resort with a great pool. We put on our swim outfits. We headed down to the pool with our blow up thingee for the baby. We staked out a quiet place in main pool. We were ready to have a relaxing time playing with our little one when … a kid we didn’t know climbed OVER us to try and get in our baby’s blow up watercraft. Huh?

We didn’t see him coming because we were focused on our baby and making sure that he was safe in the water … that and getting cute photos. This kid just comes out of nowhere and literally touches my shoulder and puts his leg over mine until he is almost in my lap and reaches for the watercraft as my baby is floating in it. Thankfully, we had two parents present and were able to move the baby out of harm’s way while restraining the other child. The mother comes up after the event and apologizes while explaining that he really likes the toy. This would be a funny story if it didn’t happen at least three MORE times until we finally just left. Is this normal? Kids just do what they want while parents apologize after the fact and we’re just supposed to be okay with it?

Perhaps some parents are unaware of how to guide children during their encounters with other children. No worries. Here are my tips to help toddlers be polite at the pool:

#1 Anticipate. If you know that your child likes to run off, keep an eye on them. Head ’em off at the pass. We all know that toddlers and tweens are a handful, but that doesn’t mean that strangers are responsible for parenting your children.

#2 Be prepared. Bring toys, watercraft, etc. for your child to the pool area (and this really goes for planes, doctor’s offices, waiting rooms, etc.). It might not stop them from wanting to the play with other things, but it is nice to have something to help refocus their attention.

#3 Apologize. I don’t mean saying, “I’m sorry” and then offering an excuse and then allowing your child to continue the same behavior. I mean taking the time to acknowledge what happened AND make a plan to do something differently. For example,

I’m sorry for…
This is wrong because…
In the future, I will…
Will you forgive me?

#4 Change plans. If your child won’t behave appropriately at the pool, then perhaps they need to return to their room for a bit. Please don’t subject the whole pool area to a child what wants to crawl over strangers and endanger the lives of other children (he was reaching for my child’s watercraft as said child was sitting in it. The baby definitely could have fallen out). It’s hard to get up and change plans in the middle of on activity but our job as parents is to teach our children how to interact with other people. It’s tough work, but lessons must be learned.

Have fun and be safe at your local pool.

Journaling With Parents Helps Deal With Tough Topics

JournalI just read about a parent giving their kids journals and letting the kids write whatever they want in them. The goal is to give the kids a place where they can talk about tough topics without the embarrassment of face-to-face discussion. I love this idea.

We have “Mommy and Me” journals. I started this when Tayla (9) was about 7, and Ticia was around 5. Each of my girls have their own journal and they are able to write down anything at all in them that they may feel uncomfortable discussing face to face. They leave the journal on my bed and I write back. So far, the main topics have been friendships, fights with one another and feeling sad or unloved by someone. My hope, is that by starting this early, they will be more inclined to come to me with more serious issues later.

I don’t know if our kid will take to this, but I’ll definitely be providing him with a journal just in case. Earlier this year I wrote about these cute journals, but these seem more like sharing journals. This journal seems more like a way for kids to talk about important things.

Anyhoo …  I thought I’d share the idea here in case anyone else likes the idea.