Adopted & Fostered Adults of the African Diaspora

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I am so excited to find out about this group for Adopted & Fostered Adults of the African Diaspora! There are opportunities to volunteer, so I’m gonna check ’em out.


Dealing With Other Parents

IMG_20140416_135324While out and about it has come to my attention that there are some really bad parents out there (was that rude? I call ’em like I see ’em). While attending a workshop at a museum we noticed a kid rubbing other children. He was touching their backs, necks, shoulders and heads. His mother noticed his behavior and pulled him to the side. I have no idea what she said to him, but he pushed away from her and went over the facilitator to continue his touching.

The woman teaching the class handled it by trying to ignore him, but it was strange watching this child rub all over this adult woman … and the mother didn’t pull him to the side again. Um …. wth?

I wasn’t sure what to do so He and I just moved our eyes from the happening to each other over and over again. Does anyone have any advice? What should we have done?


Cursing Is Good for Children


My mother not only swore in front of us, she allowed us to curse, as necessary, to express ourselves. We couldn’t curse at someone (F*ck you, you piece of sh*t!) but we could curse to express our feelings (This is some b*llsh*t!) when appropriate (no other adults were around). Growing up like that taught me that 1) there is a time and a place for everything and 2) sometimes you’ve just gotta let it out! Lol

I have an amazing vocabulary and have always spoken well. I also curse like a sailor. I don’t mean I curse when I’m upset. I mean that I curse when I’m happy (Ay! Did you see that f***ing thing? It was HUGE! Whoo hoo!), I curse when I’m sad (Wow. I can’t believe I’ll never talk politics with my mom again. She was on her sh*t. She was amazing.), and I curse when I’m confused (What do you mean you don’t sell it anymore? That’s some b*llsh*t!).

He wasn’t raised like that at all. His parents still apologize to me when they let a curse slip (Oh! Excuse me. *sheepish grin*), so we are not at all on the same page about what we’ll allow in our home. I read this article about why cursing is good and I had to share it! Not only does it “prove” my theory that cursing is 1) normal 2) healthy, it also furthers my ideology that cursing helps to create a whole individual.

Number three is my favorite:

It’s been suggested (and debated endlessly) that people who swear are more honest and trustworthy.

Yeah! We’re very honest. Honest to a fault some might say, but would you prefer we lied? Anyhoo …  what are the rules at your house? Do you curse around your children? What happens when they curse around you?