This morning we got a call from our adoption worker saying that we have a date to sign our placement paperwork! I was hoping it was going to be this week but it turns out that it’s a few weeks away.
If you’ve adopted from foster care then you know that this is the last thing that has to happen before we can finalize the adoption. Last time, we got a finalization date a few weeks after our signing. We’re hoping that the same thing happens this time.
I just received an email saying that our baby has a new worker. Our first baby went through three social workers before finally being transferred over to adoptions so the email didn’t surprise me at first. She said that she needed to see the baby before the end of the month (that’s in like … four days) and asked if we could drive out to her office.
We have nothing booked for the next few days, so driving out there isn’t an issue … but instead of replying, I just kept staring at the email … and then I saw it.
Instead of her signature line saying foster care (or something like it), it says “Adoptions”. I was really hoping that we’d have the same adoption worker as last time. I love her! She’s experienced, we have a similar parenting style, and she’s honest about what’s coming up and the time frames that we should expect. This lady might be cool too but …. I was really hoping to work with that same lady again. She called about our first placement. She met us at the hospital. She came and snuggled the baby for hours on end. She called about our second placement. She encouraged us to do our due diligence. She advised us on transitioning the baby from her foster placement to our house … it’s only right that she be there at this finalization too.
Ahhhh … so goes the adoption from foster care roller coaster.
Our youngest’s social worker came by this evening and told us that since we were licsensed again, she would be able to transfer baby girl’s case from foster care to adoptions. When I asked her if she had already compiled the documents she needed to sent to adoptions, she wasn’t sure what I was talking about and then said that adoptions compiled everything. Well, that’s clear as mud.
Last time, our adoption worker seemed to have a better handle on things so I guess I’ll wait until she comes back out. Lol I also asked her about getting the baby’s ears pierced and getting passport. She said that we should just get ’em pierced. When I mentioned that I had asked previously but I wanted to wait until I had the okay from the county, she was like, “Well …. parental rights have been terminated …. just do it”. Alrighty then …. she could have told me that waaaaaay back in September. Anyhoo ….
When I asked about the passport she laughed and said that we’d have to get the baby’s passport. Okay. That wasn’t what she said last time. I told her that I thought we were waiting on something from the court and she said that we’d need a birth certificate and we’d have to go to the Post Office. Yeah ….. we’ve done this three times …. we know how it works. Lol She seemed to be trying to remember that we’d need to get a birth certificate. When I reminded her that we had a copy of the birth certificate because we’d flown with the baby twice, she seemed surprised. SHE was the one that gave us the birth certificate! LOL I clarified again that we didn’t need a document from the court and she said, “No”. I’ll make an appointment and see how that goes.
She also said that we hadn’t been paid for the last two months and that we’d be receiving the back pay. I thought we wouldn’t be paid since, apparently, we weren’t licensed. I’m not sure if she knows what she’s talking about. Lol
Anyhoo … everything looks back on track. I’m looking forward to signing the adoption papers and getting a finalization date.
We got an email from the baby’s social worker telling us that although licensing came out in December, and made no mention of any problems, we did not have a valid license. It turned out that we each needed to complete 8 hours of training that we could do online for $40.
After doing that and sending over our training certificates, I wasn’t sure what the next step would be. Today, we got a call from licensing saying that she needed to come back out to our house so we could sign the papers that would make our license valid again.
After arrival, she told me that she didn’t get my certificates but she got my partner’s certificate. *blank stare* If that was true, then why did she call us and come out to have us sign the paperwork? I’m not sure what is going on with this lady. I printed my certificates out and gave them to her. She had us sign the paperwork and she was on her way.
I don’t know what that was all about. *shrugs*
We adopted from foster care last year. We were matched again this summer. We moved a month ago …. with a foster care placement that we hope to adopt.
After submitting our application incorrectly and then going up to the office THREE times to turn in paperwork, we are officially licensed to have children in our home again.
The lady was kinda mean on the phone but she was nice when she arrived. She spent about two hours poking around, asking to see things, and waiting while we turned down the heat on our water heater and while He rigged up the fireplace cover so the babies couldn’t get through it.
It was a bit tense in the beginning but it ended perfectly lovely. I remember the other license person telling us that they really do want to pass you. They are looking for the house to be safe and livably clean, not perfect. We moved about a month ago but we haven’t been home much so boxes are EVERYWHERE. On top of that living with two toddlers and a 100 pound dog means our floors are rarely clean. She was okay with it and even complimented me on putting water in the baby’s juice (do any parents NOT do that?) so as not to give the baby too much sugar and to keep their teeth good (we exchanged stories about how people in Cambodia kept complimenting our baby’s teeth).
All in all it was a good time that ended with is being full licensed …. again.
We used to rent a three bedroom, three bathroom, two story house. The house was okay but the neighbors were annoying. We wanted to move after our son’s adoption was final but we knew we wanted to adopt again and it was intimated that the wait time for licensing to come back out would be long … so we stayed.
Once you have a foster child in your home, licensing has to come back out to make sure the child is safe. A few months after we were matched with our daughter we started looking for a new house. We found a four bedroom, two bath (I know … ugh …) single story house a few blocks away.
As soon as we signed the lease we sent an email to her social worker and our adoption worker.We knew we had to update (reapply??) with licensing so we did that as well. As usual, the property management company is being a bit of a challenge. To get a letter that says that they knew we’re doing foster care at the property (I submitted our foster care paperwork when we applied AND both children are on the lease) I was told that they would have to contact their legal department and have them draft a letter. *blank stare*
Yesterday I got a call from licensing. They seemed upset that we’d applied after we moved. How could we have applied before we moved? We didn’t have access to the house? They seemed upset that we didn’t have the letter from the property management company. They said we’d need to submit the letter once we got it.
I’m wondering how big a deal this is. Are we pay-a-fine in trouble or remove-the-child in trouble?
Anyone have any idea?
Remember I told you that our foster care – to- adoption story was accepted into the 30 Adoption Stories in 30 Days project?
Well, it’s live!
All told, we were matched and finalized in about a year. We were matched with a healthy newborn with the specific ethnicities that match our family. We worked with amazing social workers (the baby had three over the course of a year) and our super, duper amazing adoption worker. When we started, I would have said that a story like this couldn’t happen. There are a lot of negative ideas out there about adopting from foster care. Those stories may be part of the truth, but they are not the whole truth. This is our story.
Of course there is more to the story. Check out the whole shebang over at Chicago Now.